There are various ways to talk about showing up in Italian. They often involve the reflexive form of a verb. Let's look at some examples.
Farsi vedere. We use the verb fare reflexively with the infinitive form of the verb vedere (to see). Literally, it means something to the effect of "to make/let oneself be seen." Sometimes it's about showing oneself or being seen.
Scusa, Diana, e se la persona che si firmava nel biglietto, quella che non voleva farsi vedere, non fosse una donna?
Excuse me, Diana, and if the person who signed the card, the one who didn't want to show himself, weren't a woman?
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In the previous example, someone didn't want to be seen. In the following example, however, it means to show up, to come around.
Non si sono fatti più vedere qua.
They never showed up here again.
They were never seen here again.
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When you want someone to stay in touch, you can say:
Posso dire: "Fatti vedere ogni tanto, è un mese che non ci parliamo".
I can say: "Show up every now and then. We haven't talked to each other in a month."
Caption 13, Marika spiega Il verbo vedere - Part 2
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Another way to say something similar is farsi vivo (to make oneself alive). It doesn't make sense literally, but it can mean "to show up" or "to get in touch." It's a way to be non-specific about actually showing up, in other words, it can also imply calling or writing, since it doesn't use the verb vedere (to see).
Non credo si faccia vivo, comunque stia tranquillo.
I don't think he'll get in touch, but regardless, don't worry.
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Mi faccio vivo io. -Commissario,
I will be in touch. -Detective,
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Another way to show up is with the reflexive verb presentarsi.
A parte la moglie di Rotunno, c'è anche un altro passeggero che non si è presentato:
Besides Rotunno's wife, there's another passenger who didn't show up:
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Related to showing up, we have the verb comparire (to come into view).
Però, proprio per queste caratteristiche, è un cattivo che può comparire solo eccezionalmente.
However, precisely because of these characteristics, he is a villain who can only seldomly appear/be present.
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Aside: Similar to comparire is apparire, a cognate of the verb "to appear." In Italian, it is often used before an adjective and means "to seem" or "to appear to be." We'll explore the difference between apparire and comparire in a separate lesson.
Thanks for reading. You can practice using one of the expressions above when someone shows up or doesn't show up, or when you want someone to show up.
What words and expressions can we use in Italian to talk about getting along with other people, or not getting along? There are plenty of ways, some more mainstream, and others more colloquial or even vulgar, especially when it's about not getting along.
First of all, let's mention the classic term simpatico, which is tough to translate accurately (see this lesson). Although simpatico is not strictly connected with getting along, it is often a factor.
Someone can be simpatico, meaning they are friendly, easy to get along with, nice, likeable. None of these descriptions alone is enough to express the idea of simpatico. But simpatico has become a word that many English speakers understand. We can use simpatico as an adjective to describe a person:
Nick è uno simpatico, un po' fuori di testa.
Nick is a nice guy, a bit crazy.
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But we can personalize it a bit by using the verb stare instead of essere and adding a personal pronoun. This is one way of getting around the fact that "to like" is transitive in English but not in Italian. We've mentioned in another lesson that mi piace can have various connotations, but stare simpatico is more generic and "safe."
Anche se la conoscevo poco, mi stava simpatica. -Certo.
Even if I didn't know her well, I liked her. -Of course.
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The opposite of simpatico is antipatico. But while we can use antipatico to describe a person, we also use it to describe something unpleasant like a medical procedure. It often means "unpleasant" in this context. In the following example, "unfriendly" was the translation but it could also have been "unpleasant," "not nice." Sometimes we might use "nasty," but that is a strong word.
È severo e pure un po' antipatico.
He is stern and also a bit unfriendly.
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In terms of getting along, the classic phrasal verb is andare d'accordo (literally, "to go in agreement").
Non mi avevi detto che andavate d'accordo? -Sì, andiamo d'accordo.
Didn't you tell me you got along great? -Yes, we get along.
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Sai quanto tuo marito mi sta antipatico, e questo lo abbiamo capito fra le righe, però andare d'accordo con te non è che è facile, eh.
You know how much I don't like your husband, and this we have figured out, reading between the lines, but getting along with you isn't easy, huh.
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Another way to express "getting along" in a very positive way, is with stare bene. Stare bene can mean "to feel good," "to be comfortable," or "to be in good health." Stare insieme is used when two people are in a couple. Stanno insieme (they are together, they're a couple).
Stiamo bene insieme.
We get along well together/we go well together.
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Sometimes you can get along with someone you don't like, but sometimes people are mean. In Italian, we use vedere (to see) instead of "to stand," when you can't stand someone.
Per esempio: "Nicoletta è sempre antipatica con me". E in effetti, anche io non la posso vedere.
For example: "Nicoletta is always nasty to me." And, actually, I can't stand her either.
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Sometimes we don't get along with someone because one of us is a pain in the butt. The socially acceptable way to describe this type of person is un rompiscatole. See this lesson for a closer look.
Problemi? -No, niente, è solo 'sta [questa] rompiscatole.
Problems? -No, nothing. It's just this pain in the ass.
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Now we get to more vulgar terms. Replacing rompiscatole with rompipalle or rompiballe (literally "ballbreaker," pain in the ass) is more vulgar. We again use stare (to be, to stay) together with a word for male genitalia or some euphemism. We are describing someone who can't stand someone else. The next example is quite vulgar, although used a lot, except in polite company.
Magari gli stavo sul cazzo.
Maybe to him I was a pain in the ass.
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To make this more socially acceptable, it could be:
Magari gli stavo sulle scatole.
Mi ha accollato agli altri a forza e il risultato finale è che sono appena arrivato e sto già sul cazzo a tutti.
He forced me on the others and the end result is that I only just arrived and I'm already pissing everyone off.
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We might have translated this another way, too:
Sto già sul cazzo a tutti.
Everyone already hates me/can't stand me/I am already hated by everyone.
Although the word order is different from what we say in English, the idea is that someone is hated by someone else.
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